Will may be a billionaire superstar, but if it wasn’t for his photo, I would still have to clarify, Will Smith?
As years go, this last one has been a rollar coaster. I imagine that many people remember the Oscars, and his misguided attempt to defend his wife’s honour with physical violence. I suspect the loss of a friend is the greatest of his many losses that night. After reading this book, I think the loss he feels most is the blow to his ego.
I am very sympathetic to the narcissist that celebrity must create. I suspect that any front man, with a longtime group of friends and the support of a life partner is at least grounded in many ways that keep traits from becoming a full-blown disorder. I can only imagine what a childhood full of violence can do to your psyche. Our parents have long lasting, negative, permanent effects on our personalities, even if they are not violent. “99% is zero %” is the more severe version of “99%? What happened to the 1%?”, but they both expect the same: the impossible standard of perfection.
So it was with interest, and, with equal measure, skepticism, that I read this autobiography of Willard Smith the Second. I see that he has written other books, so maybe this is not his complete story. Still, it was the most complete picture I knew of him, and it was worth the read.
Will is about a remarkable life. It is a transformation that most of us would never dream possible. It is not a life that most of us would want, but it is a life that many do covet.
If you look at the chapter names, you see that this is not just a ego-driven biopic of success. This is an extraordinary human’s search for meaning, and he makes it clear that the success and wealth he garnered did not make this easier than any ordinary human. That said, he is convincing as a self-reflective writer, at least at critical moments. I couldn’t say how much his co-author influences his writing, but having written raps and screenplays, it certainly has the ring of authenticity. He reads his own audiobook that has some great acting and music in it, so that sells it too!
I didn’t make many notes, but I did copy some quotes that were poignant. Some of them are quotes from others. I hope I reflect their wise words accurately. Pick up the book or listen to the audiobook, if you want to check it out.
It’s respectable to lose to the universe. It’s a tragedy to lose to yourself.
Be nice to everyone on the way up because you might meet them on the way down.
Don’t block your blessings.
Gammy
Everything Is impossible right up until it’s not.
No paralysis by analysis.
Master your instrument. Talent comes from God. You are born with it. Skill comes from sweat and practice and commitment. Hone your craft.
Quincy Jones
Play the cards you have, not the ones that you wish you had. (but don’t )
Inattentive blindness
Humans have two problems: we don’t know what what we want, or we know what we want, but don’t know how to get it.
Steven Covey
The universe is not logical. It’s magical. A major aspect of the pain and mental anguish we experience as humans is that our minds seek, and, often demand, logic and order from an illogical universe. Our minds desperately want shit to add up. But the rules of logic do not apply to the laws of possibility. The universe functions under the laws of magic.
I'd rather see a sermon than hear one any day;
I'd rather one should walk with me than merely tell the way.
The eye's a better pupil and more willing than the ear,
Fine counsel is confusing, but example's always clear;
And the best of all the preachers are the men who live their creeds,
For to see good put in action is what everybody needs.
I soon can learn to do it if you'll let me see it done;
I can watch your hands in action, but your tongue too fast may run.
And the lecture you deliver may be very wise and true,
But I'd rather get my lessons by observing what you do;
For I might misunderstand you and the high advise you give,
But there's no misunderstanding how you act and how you live.
When I see a deed of kindness, I am eager to be kind.
When a weaker brother stumbles and a strong man stays behind
Just to see if he can help him, then the wish grows strong in me
To become as big and thoughtful as I know that friend to be.
And all travelers can witness that the best of guides today
Is not the one who tells them, but the one who shows the way.
One good man teaches many, men believe what they behold;
One deed of kindness noticed is worth forty that are told.
Who stands with men of honor learns to hold his honor dear,
For right living speaks a language which to every one is clear.
Though an able speaker charms me with his eloquence, I say,
I'd rather see a sermon than to hear one, any day.
Edgar Guest
If you ain’t helping, you hurtin’
Darrel