It is so easy for humans to find something to argue about. On the other hand, if a topic is seen from different points of view, isn't that very topic proof of a connection? Maybe if one of us believes that lives and deaths are predetermined by fate, and another believes in free will, would it not be better to live as free if fatalistic, and the other feel relieved that that not everything is to be blamed on them?Maybe the ideas that are the most contentious are the ones we should bring up more often? Money, religion, sex, anger, politics, and the discussion of them is essential to culture. Sticking to topics like the weather, tv shows, or the last trip we took or restaurant we ate at does nothing to advance our culture or teach out children. Not talking about things because they are uncomfortable is unacceptable. We to lean into the awkward conversations that cause tension, not shy away. It is important for our relationships, our children and our world.
That being said, someone will feel that the conversation is uncomfortable. We must enter in to it with sensitivity. If you have less to lose, you have more grace to give. If the issue of fate is leading to a division in your humanity, it is not the time or maybe not the person. But the next time you feel passionately about one side of the argument, step back and embrace the crux of your differences as the bridge between your humanities. If you can view it in this way, who knows what we can learn from each other! What a gift to have friends willing to see your side when they come from another point of view, and vice versa!
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